A Feminist Guide to: Becoming The Right Kind of Radical

Militant. Femi-nazi. Man-Hating.

Feminist.

Is there even a difference? Has feminism become solely a platform to complain about minor inequalities and assert dominance over men? Most people would say yes.

I disagree.

This ‘radical’ feminism pits sister against sister, women against men. It teaches it’s followers that women are better than men and that the only way to achieve equality is through gnashing teeth and bitter words.

I would call myself a radical feminist, but a different breed of radical. I am radical in the notion that I believe a feminist should not spout unsupported facts, but do her research and have educated opinions. I am radical because I believe that men are of equal importance to the feminist movement. I am radical in the fact that I believe it is through love that we achieve equality, not anger.

It’s time we alter our call and strive toward radical feminism and radical love. Here are nine simple steps you, too, can take to becoming the right kind of radical.

  1. Check Yo’ Facts

You say that for every dollar a man makes, a woman makes $.77. Yet, do you even know why or if that’s true? Don’t spout out facts without knowing how truthful they are. Know what you stand for and why. 

 

  1. Spread Love Not Hate

Feminism is not a whine session, nor is it a way to get back at those who’ve mistreated you. It is easy to channel past hurts into vengeance. However, we must be the bigger person. We must speak in love and not in anger and resentment.

 

  1. Love Yourself

A true feminist respects her(or him)self. How can you fight for others to have equal treatment if you don’t even believe you deserve it? You are amazing, talented, and wonderful – believe it! Don’t accept treatment less than you deserve.

 

  1. Don’t Be a Bystander

Don’t stand on the sidelines when someone says something sexist or inappropriate. Even if it can be uncomfortable, say something! Remember, though, to speak it with respect and love, rather than with a bitter attitude.

 

  1. Support your sisters

Gossip. Judgment. Jealousy. We sabotage one another with lies and name-calling. We call a goal-oriented woman a ‘bitch’ and a girl who’s dated more than one guy a ‘slut.’ But what if, rather than tearing each other apart, we built each other up? If we unite and support one another we can rise through the ranks together. Often times, we are our own worst enemy.

 

  1. Include Men

A movement cannot succeed by ignoring 50% of the population. Men and women are equal and deserve equal share of the conversation. Don’t ignore men’s rights too—such as the acceptance of sensitivity and femininity in a man. A society is not equal when only one side of the story is told.

 

  1. Embrace Intersectionality

We’ve come too far to continue to separate social justice issue into categories. Privilege stacks upon itself. It isn’t just women’s rights—but rights for people of different races, classes, and countries. A true feminist must value all social justice causes and lift them up together.

 

  1. Find a Cause

Feminism is broad and sometimes difficult to grasp…so pick something! Are you passionate about STEM or the media? Incorporate feminism with your passion and witness the changes you can make.

 

  1. Do something!

Feminism is nothing without action. Prove to people that you’re serious about equality. Run a 5k for charity, start a fundraiser, write a blog! There are so many things you can do—just pick one!

At the end of the day, war begets war and hate begets hate. Only love will beget love. The most radical feminist is the feminist who loves wholeheartedly and who speaks in sympathy and compassion. Lead your life and your feminism with love – for that is the only way change will ever happen.

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2 Comments

  1. I agree with MOST of what you’re proposing. The intersectional argument is BS, however, in common parlance. It presupposes a set group of issues that “real” feminists, LGBT members, etc. MUST support or else have no voice.
    I have a lot of issues that I support – most actually meet the pre-defined SJW accepted criteria – feminism, LGBT rights, anti-racism, etc., but as an atheist, I do NOT support Islam (or any other religion) and see religion as a detriment to women worldwide.
    I also support gun rights & stringent requirements for immigration (the US already has enough non-skilled or low-skilled people fighting for resources here.
    Internationality (as promoted by most of the far-left and SJWs) requires that people refuse to think critically about what they believe and lock-step accept what is the proper & socially accepted causes.
    As you suggest feminists should research for themselves, I would extend that further to really THINK for themselves – critically and with intent.

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  2. While I was wary of something that advertised itself as a guide to becoming a radical feminist, I was pleasantly surprised that much of this article wasn’t actually full of nonsense, emotion based calls to action, or anger inspired rambling. The poster above does make a good point about the inter-sectional argument; a feminist should not be deemed “true” only when they support every issue you feel is necessary, as that will simply alienate and divide your “sisters” even more (this inter-sectional argument actually goes against your point of supporting your sisters, but I digress).

    However, your first argument falls flat right out of the gate, and I think it is a very weak way to start off what is an otherwise surprisingly reasonable article. You refer to both the “pink tax” (via the link you provide in the text) and the gender wage gap as “facts”, and this only holds true if you look at these issues in the most obtuse of ways.

    Starting with the supposed “pink tax”, when you step back and think critically (as the first response on this article urges everyone to do) about your argument, you will very quickly see there really isn’t any argument at all. “We have to pay more for the same products because the pink ones are more expensive” solves itself… just buy the ones that are “for men”. If they’re the same product, you will save money (or at least not lose money), and then the myth of the pink tax goes away. Companies will obviously still charge more for a pink razor than a blue one even if they are the same razor, because people still buy them. Easy fix. (If you decide to respond to this, do note that I am only referring to products that both men and women use on a similar basis like razors or shampoo, I am not referring to female specific products in this scenario)

    The wage gap myth is a little harder to debunk and has been a persistent misconception that I have been seeing for years now. Simply put, you can tell that the wage gap is a myth because men still have jobs too! If women really were being paid less than men for the same exact quality of work, then companies would hire only women, because that would save them ~33 cents per employee if they did (Before you think ‘well there’s laws preventing discrimination so they have to hire men’, remember that a pay disparity is also discrimination and therefore is just as illegal!). This leaves us with two possible conclusions; either the number of 77 cents to the dollar is made up, or there are other factors contributing to this pay disparity that many are either ignorant or apathetic of. When one investigates this even a little bit, they will find a multitude of statistics showing that men are more likely to choose majors that lead to higher paying jobs out of college, men choose to work more overtime, men are more likely to pursue promotions, as well as statistics reflecting tendencies in women such as women being more likely to take extra days off and women being more likely to choose lower paying majors in college. These factors (and more) are responsible for the number of 77 cents on the dollar that women earn compared to men, except these factors are ignored and the easy to remember rallying cry of the current feminist movement “women make less then men!” is all that is left. As someone who considers the wage gap to be a “fact”, it seems you have done a startlingly poor job at actually investigating the topic.

    While the rest of your article is rather level-headed, I would urge you to take your own advice and “check yo’ facts” before posting articles in the future

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